The tools I use with clients
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🧭 Five personality typology mini-tests 5
Each one on a single letter. Ten minutes, the result right away and an article to go with it.
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“I’m sort of an ambivert.” Sure.
Introvert × extrovert isn’t a personality box, it’s the answer to a single question: what recharges you every day. First you find out which fits you better, and then you read what to do with it in practice.
Am I an introvert or an extrovert? →Take a piece of paper and draw time. What did you draw?
How you see the world: through the senses, or through intuition. The most important and least understood aspect of personality typology and the biggest source of misunderstanding between people.
Am I sensing or intuitive? →You swallow it a hundred times. And then you blow up over something stupid.
Thinking vs. feeling: why do you care about the effort and he only about the result? Why do you put other people’s needs above your own and can’t say no, while he can? Find out which “language” you speak and how to understand someone who speaks a different one.
Am I feeling or thinking? →“From Monday I’ll be organised.” And by Wednesday it’s over.
Why no system lasts for you, what a planner and a non-planner are and why the way doesn’t lead through more discipline, but through acceptance and smart adaptation.
Am I a planner or a non-planner? →“I put 120% into it. And it still wasn’t enough.”
The assertive type has the sense of being enough pre-installed inside. The turbulent one doesn’t, so he looks for it outside. I write about it partly because I have it myself, and I know what to do with it.
Am I assertive or turbulent? →🗺️ Where am I actually going 3
When you know you want to change something, but not what first.
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36 questions about meaning you’ve never answered
Where you come from, what you decide by, why you’re here and what you’ll leave behind. 36 questions picked from several hundred, after Frankl, Jung, Kinder and Bronnie Ware. And then part 2: a one-page compass and a plan calibrated to how you actually work.
Find my answers →The wheel of life
You grade eight areas of your life by how they are now. Then by how you’d like them to be. But you can give the top mark only once, so it forces you into priorities. And at the end you pick one area that matters most right now.
Discover my priority →Got a dilemma? Solve it.
An online version of the two-sheets-of-paper exercise I do in sessions: you step into both options and listen to what your body says. Your head can defend both options forever, which is why in this exercise we mostly ask the body.
Solve my dilemma →🔧 What I’ll do with it 3
From understanding to what you’ll do tomorrow morning.
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Does a new habit fail you within three days?
Willpower usually isn’t to blame, it’s more the recipe you build it by. Build it after Clear, Fogg and the UCL research: identity, a mini version, an anchor, the environment, celebration and a backup for when you slip. Useful mainly for lazy people.
Build my recipe →That voice whispering “you won’t manage it”
What the inner critic really is, why you can’t shout it down with willpower and three steps I use to work with it in sessions. Including the least intuitive bit: that fear doesn’t need defeating, it needs embracing.
Read it →Love languages, and especially the one you give in
Most people give love the way they’d like to get it, and the other side doesn’t read it. That’s why this measures separately how you give and separately what you need. The third part asks what hurts you, because a missing language shows up best through pain.
Find your language →